BACKGROUND:
When Helplessness Is the Air We’re Breathing
There’s a feeling I’m hearing everywhere lately. At camp. In church halls. Around kitchen tables. On phone calls that used to be lighter.
It sounds like this:
“What can we even do anymore?”
- Our National Leaders feel distant.
- Our Media feels loud and manipulative.
- And good people (thoughtful, caring people) are tired of feeling pushed around by forces they can’t influence.
That sense of helplessness isn’t a weakness.
It’s a human response to living in a time when everything feels bigger than us. Cassie felt helpless and contributed in the best way they were capable at the moment.
The danger isn’t that we feel helpless.
It’s what we do next.
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| What is your view of this photo; Are they against one another or helping one another out? |
Here’s what I learned from camp:
Camp taught me that feelings don’t disappear when ignored. A homesick camper doesn’t calm down because you distract them. They calm down because someone notices and names what they’re feeling. Helplessness works the same way. That fire at camp lasted less than three full hours. There were folks distracting, comforting, and taking direct action. All were somewhat isolated from each other and all were doing what needed to be done next.
Servant leadership was never about controlling outcomes.
It was never about winning arguments or changing systems overnight.
It has always been about this:
How we treat people when the systems fail them.
When the world feels out of control, servant leaders don’t rush in with answers.
We show up with presence.
Here’s what I learned from camp:
When a camper melts down, the worst thing you can do is lecture. The best thing you can do is sit down at their level and stay. Camp taught me that presence calms faster than logic ever will. I know that when Cassie approached me, my sense of calm and knowing that they needed a distraction provided a space for them to contribute even when it was not ever an option to think we would put anyone out on the water.
The Shift That Changes Everything: Global to Local
Helplessness lives at the global level.
- Capitals.
- Headlines.
- Social media feeds designed to keep us anxious and divided.
Servant leadership pulls the lens closer.
- Who is in front of me today?
- What is still within our reach?
- Where can I make life a little more dignified for someone else?
Here’s what I learned from camp:
You never “fix camp” all at once. You fix the leaky canoe. You solve the bunk conflict. You help one kid feel safe enough to try again tomorrow. You don't even fight a fire with a handful of teens and early twenty somethings. It did provide them with a small set of acts that would contribute to a sense of what they could do or control that was right in front of them. Big cultures are changed the same way, small, faithful acts at ground level.
People Don’t Need More Opinions
They Need Less Noise
Right now, everyone has a take. Very few people have peace.
Servant leaders don’t add to the noise. We help people breathe again.
Sometimes that means saying: “You don’t need to carry this today.”
Here’s what I learned from camp:
At camp, we learned quickly that too many whistles ruin the game. The best leaders spoke less and meant more. Some leaders choose to lead songs, some choose to hug and comfort and others need their own self regulation to kick in. Clarity beats volume. Calm beats chaos.
Restoring Dignity Is Real Power
When institutions feel broken, people begin to feel small.
Servant leaders push back by restoring dignity wherever they can.
- We notice effort.
- We honor generosity.
- We acknowledge quiet faithfulness.
Here’s what I learned from camp:
Every child wants to be seen as capable. When we trusted a camper with responsibility (even a small one) they stood taller. Adults aren’t any different. Dignity given is dignity multiplied.
Non-Anxious Presence Is a Gift
In seasons like this, people don’t need leaders who are certain.
They need leaders who are steady.
Non-anxious presence looks like:
- Listening longer than you speak
- Responding instead of reacting
Here’s what I learned from camp:
Camp emergencies taught me this fast. If the director panics, everyone panics. If the director stays calm, solutions appear. Anxiety is contagious—but so is steadiness.
Power Was Never What We Were Told It Was
We’ve been sold the idea that power means control.
Winning.
Being louder than the other side.
Servant leadership offers a truer definition.
Power is the ability to show up, protect, and choose goodness.
Here’s what I learned from camp:
The most powerful leaders at camp weren’t the loudest. They were the ones campers followed voluntarily. Campers reached out to those they knew would provide a sense of comfort. Influence was earned through consistency, fairness, and care—not authority alone.
What We Can Practice Right Now?
Not slogans. Practices.
• One media-free hour a day
• One intentional act of service a week
• One real conversation instead of ten comment threads
Here’s what I learned from camp:
Routines save lives. When the day had rhythm; meals, activities, rest, campers felt safe. In chaotic times, simple practices become anchors.
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| Program Director (yours truly) for the resident YMCA. |
A Final Thought
People don’t need saviors right now. They need anchors.
Servant leadership in 2026 looks less like fixing the world and more like refusing to let the world break us.
Here’s what I learned from camp:
Camp didn’t change the outside world. It changed how people showed up in it. I filled that anchor role. And that turned out to be enough, more often than not.
- Quietly.
- Consistently.
- Together.
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