Servant Leadership At This Time (Here's What I Know from Camp)

BACKGROUND:

SUMMER 1988

SETTING: A summer camp in the San Bernardino Mountains in Southern California at about 7600 feet above sea level at the end of a 5.2 mile forest service road.

NOTE: This is a true story with some names changed for privacy. Please note that no one was harmed or became harmed as a result of the story below.

STORY: Adam Percival of San Bernardino was camped along Forest Service Road 2N12 in the San Bernardino mountains of Southern California for the 4th of July weekend of 1988. He wanted to be in the woods and was not always well prepared for his adventures. He had a little pick up truck and had set up a tent and a small campfire spot along a meadow near the tree line of Ponderosa Pines. He had roasted some hot dogs and perhaps had one too many of his favorite beer. The evening was cool and dry for a July evening. 

The camp was less than 1/4 mile from his camping spot and currently held 223 individuals made up of teens from three different YMCAs in Southern California who were there for the week. Most of the campers and their leaders were in the cabins by 10 pm with about 27 of them on a hike out across the meadow to a spot just outside of camp for a late evening program activity.

As Adam slept, the flames from the campfire were still going and ignited a bit of brush next to a pine that was considerably dead compared to the hundreds of others along the meadow. It did not take too long for the flames to  begin to torch up the tree.

One of the YMCA leaders was driving back into the camp that evening and saw the flames. He immediately alerted the camp director and some staff that a fire was growing just outside the property. A phone call was made via the radio telephone technology of that time and the forest service fire company said that it could be 40 minutes to an hour before they would arrive.

The camp leadership assembled more staff and the decision (as per policy) to conduct a fire drill proceeded. A staff member was dispatched to go alert and escort the 27 folks who were out on the perimeter of the property.

The program director from one of the YMCAs was directed to assemble with the campers and leaders into the dining hall and conduct an impromptu campfire program; leading songs with the campers.

Ten of the permanent staff of the camp (those who were there for the entire 11 week summer season) along with the camp director went to the maintenance area to get shovels, rakes and other items to begin to create a perimeter around the fire that was now high in the tree line due to the dead tree that had caught ablaze.

The camp director turned to me as they left and said, you are in charge and responsible for everyone in the dining hall and the group who we hoped were now returning from the outskirts of the camp. I had gone to the front gate and it was clear that flames were at the tree top and lighting up the clear night in the not to distant view. I began to walk back towards the dining hall to check back with the staff team.

The camp permanent staff program director, Cassie, was pacing in front of the dining hall and seemed to be very upset. I approached them to see what they were assigned to do. In her clear stress and upset she came face to face with me and said, "I don't know what to do. I saw our neighbors house burn down when I was a child and I don't know what to do." Cassie's voice and tearful gaze created a dilemma for me since I was technically a subordinate on the organizational chart. I recall that I almost immediately told her to get two other staff people and go down to the lake to prep canoes and boats and lifejackets should we need to get anyone on the water away from flames. 

Cassie's sense of helplessness and despair was not isolated. In the dining hall I saw and heard some campers and leaders who were hugging and consoling one another. David was at the front with some enthusiastic staff members helping lead songs that seemed to distract a third or more of the campers. I walked back to the front gate one more time and saw the glow seemed to be growing closer.

When Helplessness Is the Air We’re Breathing

There’s a feeling I’m hearing everywhere lately. At camp. In church halls. Around kitchen tables. On phone calls that used to be lighter.

It sounds like this:

“What can we even do anymore?”

• Our National Leaders feel distant.
• Our Media feels loud and manipulative.
• And good people (thoughtful, caring people) are tired of feeling pushed around by forces they can’t influence.

That sense of helplessness isn’t a weakness.
It’s a human response to living in a time when everything feels bigger than us. Cassie felt helpless and contributed in the best way they were capable at the moment.

The danger isn’t that we feel helpless.

It’s what we do next.

What is your view of this photo; Are they against one another or helping one another out?

Here’s what I learned from camp:
Camp taught me that feelings don’t disappear when ignored. A homesick camper doesn’t calm down because you distract them. They calm down because someone notices and names what they’re feeling. Helplessness works the same way. That fire at camp lasted less than three full hours. There were folks distracting, comforting, and taking direct action. All were somewhat isolated from each other and all were doing what needed to be done next.

Servant Leadership Doesn’t Fix the World It Keeps People Human

Servant leadership was never about controlling outcomes.
It was never about winning arguments or changing systems overnight.

It has always been about this:
How we treat people when the systems fail them.

When the world feels out of control, servant leaders don’t rush in with answers.
We show up with presence.

Here’s what I learned from camp:
When a camper melts down, the worst thing you can do is lecture. The best thing you can do is sit down at their level and stay. Camp taught me that presence calms faster than logic ever will. I know that when Cassie approached me, my sense of calm and knowing that they needed a distraction provided a space for them to contribute even when it was not ever an option to think we would put anyone out on the water.

The Shift That Changes Everything: Global to Local

Helplessness lives at the global level.

• Capitals.
• Headlines.
• Social media feeds designed to keep us anxious and divided.

Servant leadership pulls the lens closer.

• Who is in front of me today?
• What is still within our reach?
• Where can I make life a little more dignified for someone else?

Here’s what I learned from camp:
You never “fix camp” all at once. You fix the leaky canoe. You solve the bunk conflict. You help one kid feel safe enough to try again tomorrow. You don't even fight a fire with a handful of teens and early twenty somethings. It did provide them with a small set of acts that would contribute to a sense of what they could do or control that was right in front of them. Big cultures are changed the same way, small, faithful acts at ground level.

People Don’t Need More Opinions

They Need Less Noise

Right now, everyone has a take. Very few people have peace.

Servant leaders don’t add to the noise. We help people breathe again.

Sometimes that means saying: “You don’t need to carry this today.”

Here’s what I learned from camp:
At camp, we learned quickly that too many whistles ruin the game. The best leaders spoke less and meant more. Some leaders choose to lead songs, some choose to hug and comfort and others need their own self regulation to kick in. Clarity beats volume. Calm beats chaos.

Restoring Dignity Is Real Power

When institutions feel broken, people begin to feel small.

Servant leaders push back by restoring dignity wherever they can.

• We notice effort.
• We honor generosity.
• We acknowledge quiet faithfulness.

Here’s what I learned from camp:
Every child wants to be seen as capable. When we trusted a camper with responsibility (even a small one) they stood taller. Adults aren’t any different. Dignity given is dignity multiplied.

Non-Anxious Presence Is a Gift

In seasons like this, people don’t need leaders who are certain.
They need leaders who are steady.

Non-anxious presence looks like:

• Listening longer than you speak
• Responding instead of reacting

Here’s what I learned from camp:
Camp emergencies taught me this fast. If the director panics, everyone panics. If the director stays calm, solutions appear. Anxiety is contagious—but so is steadiness.

Power Was Never What We Were Told It Was

We’ve been sold the idea that power means control.

Winning.
Being louder than the other side.

Servant leadership offers a truer definition.

Power is the ability to show up, protect, and choose goodness.

Here’s what I learned from camp:
The most powerful leaders at camp weren’t the loudest. They were the ones campers followed voluntarily. Campers reached out to those they knew would provide a sense of comfort. Influence was earned through consistency, fairness, and care—not authority alone.

What We Can Practice Right Now?

Not slogans. Practices.

• One media-free hour a day
• One intentional act of service a week
• One real conversation instead of ten comment threads

Here’s what I learned from camp:
Routines save lives. When the day had rhythm; meals, activities, rest, campers felt safe. In chaotic times, simple practices become anchors.

Program Director (yours truly) for the resident YMCA.

A Final Thought

People don’t need saviors right now. They need anchors.

Servant leadership in 2026 looks less like fixing the world and more like refusing to let the world break us.

Here’s what I learned from camp:
Camp didn’t change the outside world. It changed how people showed up in it. I filled that anchor role. And that turned out to be enough, more often than not.

• Quietly.
• Consistently.
• Together.

Post Script: Adam was awoken by the camp staff and he jumped into his truck and drove away. The fire was put out by the Forrest Service fire department. The 27 campers and leaders made it safely back into camp and joined the rest of camp in the dining hall. The camp director and 10 staff had cleared a semi circle in the meadow area some 20 yards from the brush and tree that was on fire. Cassie put all the canoes and lifejackets away after the crisis was over. I learned that moving through a crisis seemed to go in slow motion and nearly 4 decades later, I replay that evening in the same way. Slowly, deliberately, and as an anchor.

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Group Interviews Are Not For Servant Leaders

 

I have camp colleagues who swear by group interviews for their staff and team recruitment.

I have to admit, that early in my career, I participated in this philosophy. Here are five reasons to avoid group interviews when hiring summer camp leaders, written to align with John C. Maxwell’s leadership philosophy and my long-held camp hiring lens, especially with a focus on humility, hunger, and people intelligence. 

1. Group interviews reward performance, not character

John C. Maxwell alignment: “Leadership is influence, not position.”
Camp reality: Influence at camp is quiet, relational, and consistent. I discovered this in the 1990s (yes after well over a decade of working and serving at camps). My lesson was from Ed who worked with a dedicated flare as a camp leader. He seemed to say and do thigs that greatly influenced his cabin group and all the rest of the staff around him. 

If you met Ed, outside of camp, he comes off as brash and boastful. He does not excel at one on one interactions in everyday settings. And then he goes to camp and he is that "unofficial leader" that everyone stops to listen to when he chooses to speak.

In group interviews, the loudest voice often wins. The confident storyteller dominates. The natural performer shines. But camp leadership is rarely about commanding a room, it’s about showing up for one child when no one is watching.

Group interviews tend to elevate:

• Extroversion over empathy

• Confidence over humility

• Quick wit over thoughtful judgment

Individual interview philosophy has always been about who they are, not how they perform. Group settings obscure character because they reward visibility, not values.

2. You can’t truly assess humility in a competitive setting

John C. Maxwell alignment: The Law of Solid Ground – Trust is the foundation of leadership. Trust is essential for camp. A leader who has not developed trust with their team members will lose their authority. I learned this the hard and difficult route. I can recall so many examples of my decisions that undermined trust with an individual at camp, that led to their decisions that created resentment towards all leadership. 

In one particular example, during a staff orientation session, I was paying too much attention to a staff member (Tori)  who garnered a great deal of attention from  negative behaviors.  One of my leadership team challenged me and engaged in a series of excuses for Tori and not only did I begin to loose respect from others, I undermined my own authority. I was not showing any humility in the situation.

Humility shows up when someone:

• Listens before speaking

• Gives credit instead of claiming it

• Admits uncertainty or learning edges

A group interview unintentionally creates competition:

• Who answers first

• Who sounds smartest

• Who gets noticed

That environment discourages humility, the very trait you know separates good counselors from transformational ones. Camp needs leaders who can say, “I don’t know yet, but I’m willing to learn.” Group interviews push candidates toward self-promotion, not teachability.

3. Hunger (drive) gets confused with dominance

John C. Maxwell alignment: The Law of the Process – Leadership develops daily, not in a day. In my BLOG “Unschooling” Leadership," I referenced a moment when a new camp leader botched a campfire story. Without blaming the circumstances, they came back the next night, tried again and ended with a standing ovation.

That “try again” moment is pure hunger (not performance hunger). It is growth hunger: the decision to return to the work, improve, and serve the campers better the next time. 

In camps, hunger shows up as:

• Reliability

• Follow-through

• Willingness to do unseen work

• Growth over time

Group interviews often mistake hunger for:

• Talking more

• Taking over

• Outperforming peers in the moment

But you’ve seen this story before at camp: The leader who speaks the least in interviews often becomes the one who stays late, shows up early, and grows the most.

Group interviews favor immediate impact, not long-term development, which runs counter to both Maxwell’s law of process and my own camp leadership experience.

4. People intelligence can’t be measured in a crowd

John C. Maxwell alignment: The Law of Connection – Leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand. Asking good questions isn't enough. You have to ask great questions that help you as a leader convey the culture you want at camp. 

In my 10 part BLOG series Good Leaders Ask Great Questions, I dove into creating connections with your leadership throughout the summer. Those connections are part of how your camp leaders need to connect as well with their campers and their peers.

Camp is relational leadership at ground level:

• One child at a time

• One conflict at a time

• One homesick moment at 2 a.m.

In a group interview:

• Candidates interact with the room, not with a person

• Empathy gets lost

• Listening is performative, not genuine

You don’t hire leaders to manage groups, you hire them to connect with individuals inside a group. That nuance gets flattened in a shared interview space.

5. Group interviews send the wrong message about camp culture

John C. Maxwell alignment: Everything rises and falls on leadership. When there is a vacuum in leadership, individuals will attempt to fill that void with their interpretation of what you as a leader intend. I wrote about Intentional Leadership in a previous BLOG post: Click Here to read that BLOG. 

The interview is the first act of leadership a camp demonstrates.

Group interviews quietly communicate:

• “We’re efficient, not personal”

• “Stand out or be overlooked”

• “Fit the mold quickly”

But your camp leadership philosophy rooted in servant leadership that says:

• You matter as a person

• We see you, not just your résumé

• Growth is expected, not perfection

Individual interviews reinforce the culture you want:

• Belonging before brilliance.
• Character before charisma.
• Service before spotlight.

A camp-centered conclusion 

Group interviews make sense when hiring performers.
Camps are not hiring performers, we are hiring presence, patience, and purpose.

John Maxwell reminds us that leadership is developed, not displayed.
Camp teaches us the same truth every summer.

If we want leaders who will serve children well, we must interview them the way we expect them to lead, one relationship at a time.

Ready to hire leaders who actually serve?
If you’re serious about building a staff culture rooted in character, connection, and trust, then it’s time to upgrade your interview process.

Consider joining my Behavioral Interviewing for Camp Leaders course inside SKOOL and learn how to:

• ask questions that reveal humility, hunger, and people intelligence

• spot red flags early (before they become mid-summer problems)

• build an interview process that aligns with servant leadership

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And if you are applying for a leadership position at camp, consider this course that helps you grow your interview skills.

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Prepare Camp Leaders For Behavioral Interviews

 

The Behavioral Interview Advantage

How Camp Leaders Can Prepare to Be Hired for Who They Really Are

Over the years, I’ve sat on both sides of the interview table. On the interviewer side, it is amazing to me the number of folks who believe that it is a “gotcha” game. That somehow, the interviewer must ask questions that show (or stump) how the person being interviewed is not up to the position.

I’ve interviewed thousands of young folks who wanted to become camp leaders. And I’ve watched those same leaders grow into cabin leaders, unit leaders, and directors. I’ve seen the magic that happens when a camp hires well. And I’ve also seen the heartbreak when a camp hires someone who sounds great in an interview…but can’t handle the real work of leading kids, working with peers, and carrying responsibility.

Here’s what I know:

Camp doesn’t need perfect people. Camp needs prepared people.
People who can stay calm. Make good choices. Serve others. Own their mistakes. Ask for help. And grow.

That’s why I’m excited to share a course I recently built and refined. This is one that I believe is going to help camp leaders at every level. But what makes it unique is this:

I reverse engineered it.

Years ago, I had the great opportunity to learn about "Behavioral Interviewing” while I attended a camp director retreat. We had the great fortune to not only learn, but we were trained to train the course. The expectation being that we would take it back to our own camps and make sure that the next generation of leaders knew it as well.

Fast forward 28 years later. I updated a version of that course for camp leadership and shared it on the SKOOL platform.

At first, this course was designed for those who were recruiting and hiring so that they would master the art of behavioral interviewing. I included how to ask the right questions and hire with evidence, not assumptions.

But then I had a realization.

If camps are using behavioral interviews (and many are), then we should also be training candidates—the future staff—to succeed in that format. I want to disrupt the “gotcha’ game of interviewing.

So I rebuilt the course into a guide for someone being interviewed. And if you’re applying to camp, interviewing for a leadership role, or helping teens and young adults prepare for hiring…this is for you.

What is Behavioral Interviewing?

Behavioral interviewing is based on one simple belief:

Past behavior predicts future performance.

Instead of asking:

• “What would you do if a camper was homesick?”
  
  

A behavioral interviewer asks:

• “Tell me about a time you helped a young person who was overwhelmed or homesick. What did you do?”
  
  

That shift matters.

Because camp leadership isn’t hypothetical. It’s not a multiple-choice test. It’s not a personality quiz.

It’s responsibility in real time.

Behavioral interviewing produces evidence. Not impressions.
And that’s a good thing—for everyone.

It helps camps hire leaders who can actually do the work.
And it helps candidates get hired based on what they’ve truly done—not whether they’re good at talking.

Why This Matters in Camp Hiring

Let’s be honest: camp interviews can feel emotional.

Potential staff want to be liked. Camp leadership want to believe in someone’s potential. Sometimes we hear enthusiasm and assume we’re hearing readiness.

But camp is not a place for guessing.

We’re putting people in charge of other people’s children. We’re trusting them with safety. We’re asking them to live and lead in a community of their peers. And we’re asking them to be the kind of leader who doesn’t quit when it gets hard and it will.

So if a camp can shift from:

• “I have a good feeling about them…”
  
  

to:

• “Here is the evidence they can do this…”
  
  

Then camp wins. Campers win. And the Staff win.

And if a candidate learns to give that evidence clearly? They win too.

I’d like you to consider joining my FREE SKOOL group Servant Leadership at Camp.

And once you are there, review the 10 module “Summer Staff Applying to Behavioral Interviews.”

Not only do you have a friend and fan from me. I want to serve you by equipping you with a tried and true method to prepare for interviews and get hired at the camp of your choosing.

This is FREE. I have no expectations other than you pay it forward to the young folks you will serve at camp this summer. Have a great time and feel free to comment or reach out if you need support during the interview process and once you work at camp.

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2025 One Last Look and 2026 Onward

Here are the Top Five most read New BLOGs from alferreira coaching for this past year (2025). All happen to be from my series for summer camp leaaders, which was a large portion of the BLOG this past year. Take one last look and I hope you find them inspiring and informative.

5) 10 Part Series For New Leaders Working At Camp This Summer - Part Nine - An entry from this series for folks who work in the summer camp world and serve others.

4) Leaders Need Leaders (A Little Ai from Ai) A welcome to my BLOG and some thoughts on interviewing skills with inspiration from  EJ Lugo and John C. Maxwell.

3) You Just Finished Camp. Now What? (for cabin and activity leaders) A few thoughts to challenge those folks after summer camp as well as reminders to take a break.

2) 10 Part Series For New Leaders Working At Camp This Summer - Part Ten - Another entry from this series for folks who work in the summer camp world and serve others.

1)  Three Reminders For Camp Leaders As You Start Your Summer. A note to fellow camp directors with a John C. Maxwell quote.

I hope you all had a great year and learned lessons that served you (and others) well. 

ONWARD!

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2025 - A View Towards the Future

 

Okay, so it's a rear view!

Here's What I Know...

• Servant Leadership is learned by doing
• Service begins with inner character; humility, reflection, and growth.
• Relationships matters more than control
• Growth comes thorugh failure, resilience, and reflection

1) I have written often about young staff memebrs who arrive at cam pwith enthusiasm, trainin notes, and leadership language. It's in the unplanned moments that actually shape them.

It's in the moments when a leader sets down the rulebook, sists on the gorund next to a camper, or quietly taeks over a task without being asked.

In reflection I note that no leadership manual prepared them for that moment but the moment prepred them for leadership.

While training, orientation, and rile play are vitsal, Leadership is forged in real responsibility. The experience is the curriculum.

2) Leaders (and myself, a lot) have entered situations and convinced ourselves that we were right to enforce a rule, correct a behavior, or ove a plan forward. And then, we (I) have that relaization that the issue wasn't the camper or the staff..the issue was the leader's need to be right or win.

There are those turning points during a late-night talk, a post-program debrief, or even a quiet hike in camp, where as a leader you recognize that humility would have served better than authority.

Servant leadership starts inside. If the leader doesn't do the inner work, no amount of skill or or position will either.

3) I often have said, that there is a reason for the rules. It is a foundation for the opportunity to connect. And that matters more. A camper may break a rule and the easy response is discipline. Instead, the servant leader listens, learns what's underneath, and chooses reationships over reaction.

Once trust is built, behvior changes naturally. The camper (or team member) listens. A culture shifts. A Staff member steps up, not because of enforcement, but because of belonging.

People don't change because they are managed well. People change because they feel seen, known, and valued.

4) Having a great summer because of a plan and schedule on paper looks great and then fails in practice. I have had my share of those. A season that felt heavier or an activity that failed or a leadership decision that backfired. 

I have learned and gained from those the most. It was the late night convesations to adjust. The grace given. A relaization that leadership maturty came not from success, but from staying present after disappointment.

Resilience, not eprfection, is the hallmark of a servant leader. Relfection turns failure into wisdom.

These four lessons  are not reserved just for 2025, they have been part of the last 25 years or more. In 2025, I have had them reinforced through my work at camp, church, communtiy and most of all my friends and family.

As my friend Vince C. says, "ONWARD!"

And Happy New Year!

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Frau Blücher at Camp (A Little Al from al)

Young Frankenstein is the classic Mel Brooks movie that my friend and peer group quoted over and over throughout junior, senior high school, college and beyond.

Perhaps, my favorite scene (s) were when someone would say the name of the housekeeper, “Frau Blücher” and the horses immediately neigh in terror.
It was as if saying the name was a Pavlovian response of the horses from some unseen part of the story that made them deathly afraid of Frau Blücher. The reaction is wildly out of proportion and unexpected. The repetition makes it funnier each time.

It wasn’t until college that I learned this was actually based on a communication theory by Alfred Karzybski, a Polish American philosopher and educator.

His theory says that words can trigger automatic emotional or physiological responses, even when nothing in the environment changes. In Young Frankenstein, the sound of the name “Frau Blücher” triggers the horses’ panic.

At camp, we often find that words trigger a response in the community or team. A “semantic response” of sorts that produces that reflexive response.

So the horses respond to:

• The symbol (her name)
• Based on an internalized meaning (fear/dread)
• Producing a physiological/behavioral reaction (neighing)

I know, some of you are thinking, “Al, not every camp has horses.” 
Yes, but we all have a staff team and they operate in a similar fashion. 

As chat GPT, likes to say, “Before I continue…”
The gag from Young Frankenstein translates each into actionable, practical, leadership-ready communication takeaways. Especially useful for youth development, camp culture, conflict resolution, and leadership training.

Loving the Neuroscience (4 Views that we can take to Camp)
Karl H. Pribram (a top researcher in the fields of cognitive psychology, cognitive science, neuropsychology, holonomic brain theory) wrote about this in an article on Brain and Meaning.

The link happens in neuroscience with general semantics, showing that meaning isn’t “in the words" it’s in the brain’s patterning, the internal maps that individuals bring with them to camp from their past experience.

Here’s the Practical Application at camp:
    1. The “meaning gap:" People don’t hear your words; they hear their wiring.
A staff member might hear:

• “You need to be more present in the cabin.”…but their brain may interpret:
• “You’re failing.”

Leadership takeaway:
Always check their interpretation, not just your intended message.

2. Emotional reactions aren’t irrational - they’re neurological shortcuts.
This helps explain why certain staff or campers “explode,” shut down, or get anxious at predictable triggers.

Leadership practice:
Identify staff “semantic triggers.”
Reframe rather than repeat loaded terms (“discipline” → “support plan”).

3. Memory is a pattern, not fact. The brain uses patterns to interpret current reality.
Camp application:
When staff give conflicting accounts of a conflict, both may be telling a truth; the truth their patterning produced.
Use:

• reflective listening
• neutral restatement
• structured debriefing (“What did you notice?” vs “What happened?”)

Allen Walker Read, an American etymologist, wrote about it, Is General Semantics Compatible with Utopianism?
Read discusses that general semantics supports utopian thinking. He concludes:
General semantics discourages naive idealism
But encourages practical, incremental improvement
General semantics is anti-utopian in fantasy, but pro-utopian in methodical progress toward better conditions.

Here’s the Practical Application at camp:

1. “Camp utopia” is a trap.
Staff often enter with unrealistic expectations:

• “Everyone will get along.”
• “The kids will listen.”
• “We’ll be a family.”

When reality hits, disappointment often explodes and emotions run hot and hard.

Leadership practice:
Replace utopian expectations with functional expectations:

• “We grow through conflict.”
• “Community requires skill, not vibes.”
• “Hard days are normal; how we respond is leadership.”

2. General Semantics encourages operational definitions.
Instead of staff saying:

• “The culture is toxic,” you ask:
• “What behaviors are you seeing that make you say that?”

3. Progress is GREATER than perfection.
Utopian thinking leads to burnout.
General semantics oriented leadership focuses on:

• “1% improvements”
• “next observable action”
• “better maps, not perfect maps”
• Perfect for mid-summer staff resets.

Barbara E. Wright, whose work on comparative biochemistry, writes in her article, The Heredity–Environment Continuum. Wright uses general semantics to dissolve rigid “nature vs. nurture” thinking. She further shows how behavior comes from continuous interaction, not either/or.

Here’s the Practical Application at camp:

1. Stop using labels as explanations.
Staff often say:

• “He’s ADHD.”
• “She’s just dramatic.”
• “That CIT is lazy.”

General semantics and Wright remind leaders these are shortcuts, not causes.

Leadership practice:
Shift from label → behavior → context

• “What did he do?”
• “When does it happen?”
• “What’s happening around him?”

2. Behavior is usually situational.

• A camper who’s an angel at archery may melt down at swim because of sensory triggers.
• A staff member who is brilliant one week may falter the next due to cabin dynamics.
• General semantics helps leaders stop making moral judgments and start making contextual maps.

3. Environment matters: change it before you change the person.
Instead of:

• “How do I fix him?” use:
• “What can I change around him to give him success?”

I find this one most intriguing. The classic for returning staff to discuss a camper or leader who says, “John Reily will never be a great leader, he does this….” It is judgement. Pure and simple. The individual has no opportunity to defend themself or have room for growth or redemption.

This is classic youth-development alignment and echoes the behavior management principles that I often write about.

The final example comes from Jeffrey A. Mordkowitz, a computer scientist from Stony Brook University and later served at the Institute of General Semantics. His article, Listener’s Guide to Alfred Korzybski’s 1948–49 Intensive Seminar (It is an interpretive guide, but full of practical tools.)

Korzybski taught that people suffer because they confuse:

• symbol with thing
• map with territory
• inference with observation
• expectations with reality

Here’s the Practical Application at camp:
1. Staff conflict almost always comes from “map-territory confusion.”
Example:
    One staff member says: “You don’t care.”
    What they mean is: “Your behavior didn’t match my needs or expectations.”

Teach staff:
Describe behaviors, not motives.

2. The “ladder of inference” is built into General semantics.
A staff member sees:
    A camper not participating
    Then assumes:
    “He doesn’t like the program,”
    Then concludes:
    “I’m a bad leader.”

General Semantics teaches you to interrupt this type of thinking chain.

3. Time-binding = leadership development.
Korzybski’s defining concept: humans build on prior knowledge across generations.

Camp application:
Great directors time-bind by:

• teaching traditions
• fostering institutional memory
• carrying lessons forward
• building training that accumulates wisdom

Simply put, people don’t react to reality, they react to the maps they carry. Your role as a leader is to help and support the art of updating those maps with clarity and compassion.

General Semantics teaches one simple idea:
People don’t react to reality — they react to the meaning they attach to it. These four tools below are what I have garnered over 4 decades at camp. It will help staff communicate with clarity, empathy, and leadership all summer long.

(I ran my BLOG thru Chat GPT and below are the four steps for you as a takeaway.)

1. Words Don’t Mean - People Mean
(Based on Karl Pribram’s “Brain and Meaning”)
Everyone processes language through their own experiences, emotions, and history.

What this means at camp:
Your words land differently for each person.

• A simple correction might feel like criticism.
• A casual statement might feel like praise or rejection.

Leadership Move:
✔ Always check understanding:

• “Tell me what you heard me say.”
• “How did that come across?”

Result: Fewer misunderstandings → calmer cabins → clearer teamwork.

2. Describe Behavior, Not Motives
(From Korzybski’s seminar principles)
When conflict happens, people jump to interpretations (“you don’t care,” “she’s lazy,” “he’s dramatic”).
GS teaches us to separate:

• What I observed
• What I assumed

Leadership Move:
✔ Replace motive language with observable behavior:
    Not: “You weren’t invested.”
    But: “You sat down twice during the activity and didn’t respond when campers asked for help.”
    Result: Conversations feel fair, factual, and less personal.

3. Context Creates Behavior
(Based on Barbara Wright’s heredity–environment continuum)
Behavior is rarely about “personality.” It is usually about context.

What this means at camp:

• A camper who struggles in swim may shine at archery.
• A staff member who falters in one cabin may excel with another group.

Conflict often reflects environment, not character.

Leadership Move:
✔ Ask: “What’s happening around this person that might be shaping the behavior?”
✔ Adjust the environment before trying to “fix” the person.
Result: Increased success, fewer power struggles, more empathy.

4. Progress, Not Perfection
(From Allen Walker Read’s “GS and Utopianism”)
Utopian expectations (“everyone will get along,” “camp will always feel magical”) create disappointment and burnout.

GS promotes incremental improvement, not impossible ideals.
Leadership Move:
✔ Reframe expectations:

• “We’re not aiming for perfect, we’re aiming for better.”
• “Conflict is normal; how we respond is leadership.”

✔ Celebrate 1% improvements.
Result: Staff remain confident, resilient, and realistic — even in tough weeks.

Remember to:
Slow down → Notice more → Assume less → Ask better questions → Adjust the environment → Aim for progress.

This is the heart of communication, the heart of youth development, and the heart of servant leadership.

Blücher